Are You Adhesive?

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Do people “stick” to you? Or do they quietly look for ways to keep conversations short and impersonal?

If you’re slumping in your career, you need to turn your focus inward. “Adhesiveness,” close cousin to cohesiveness (we’ll get to that next), is a step beyond likeability.

And it’s a new trait you need to master. I like the simple words used here. Adhesiveness is your ability to cause people to not only like you, but to feel drawn to you. It’s charisma with value.

Tim Sanders wrote “The Likeability Factor : How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life’s Dreams.” It’s a great book that puts a spotlight on who you are as a person and whether you build “real” relationships with others. But adhesiveness is going beyond simply being friendly, relevant, empathetic, and “real.”

When you’re adhesive, people look forward to talking with you. Enough that they seek you out. Yes, they like you. But they’re not simply excited to hear from you…they contact you first.

When you’re adhesive, people develop a reliance upon you, because of the value you provide. They are dependent upon you. They may even say they need you.

When you’re adhesive, you stick to other people and they stick to you. You know and care about them. They remember you.

Increase your adhesiveness, you increase your success.